Anger management techniques. 25 simple ways to overcome your anger.

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What is anger management

Anger management techniques are essential if we wish to learn how to manage anger.

Unlike what many people believe, anger is a natural emotion that we use to express our grief.

The grief that we feel whenever we feel powerless or when life gives us something we did not expect.

It is something we all feel and there is nothing wrong about it. What is important is how we manage that anger.

Failing to manage anger might not only hamper your close relationships but also lead to several health issues.

Sustained feelings of anger turn to resentment, which can cause anxiety and depression.

This leads to health problems like headaches, high blood pressure; digestive issues even skin diseases, and heart problems.

Apart from damage to your health and your close relationships, anger can push you in a life of violent behaviour, abuse or crime.

This can lead to loss of self-esteem and sustained mental health problems.

Thus, it is important that we understand our anger and learn how to manage it properly.

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Limiting beliefs. How to overcome your Self Limiting beliefs

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What are Limiting beliefs

Limiting beliefs are exactly what they sound like. They are the perceptions we have accepted in our minds as truths.

Are they truths? Well sometimes, they are and sometimes they are not.

Whenever you experience anything in life, your brain goes to the vast collection of conclusions it has accepted over the years and provides you with a bunch of probabilities.

Therefore, in any circumstance you face, your brain will provide you with its best guess.

That best guess is just that, a guess. Moreover, we are acting on those guesses more often than we realise.

According to Dr. Fred Luskin of Stanford University, a human has almost 60,000 thoughts each day and 90% of those thoughts are repetitive.

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How to bounce back from failure and adversity

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Bounce back from failure  

To bounce back from adversity is essential. At this moment when the entire world is having a tough time, it is crucial that we not only survive somehow but that we come back stronger.

One true fundamental truth of the universe is change, the only absolute.

Accepting this not only can make us resilient when good times turn sour but also give us the courage to keep moving when we are dealing with failure.

All the above lines are perfectly logical. We all understand them at some level and yet it is so difficult to keep going.

We realize that failure is temporary and still it is hard to stay resilient. How to we bounce back from failure and adversity? Let us find out

“The true measure of success is how many times you can bounce back from failure.”

– Stephen Richards
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How to resist temptations. 10 steps to resist temptation

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Resist temptations

Resist temptations, such an arduous task. It is a problem that we all face. The information age has only made things worse.

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We all give in to temptations, some more than others. We do this despite our knowledge of the harm they can bring us. Moreover, we also judge others that give in to them.

Not only do we repeatedly fail to resist temptations, we expect others to be principled when dealing with them.

This slight hypocrisy is very common in most people and you can see it especially well in people that never fulfill their commitments and yet whine about politicians not fulfilling their promises.

If we cannot resist the temptations we have right now, how can we hope to do better once we do have more power and consequently more access to self-indulgence?

Just giving in to temptations can destroy entire lives and careers of people. This is why we must know how to resist temptations, especially if we want to move upwards in life.

“Because power corrupts, society’s demands for moral authority and character increase as the importance of the position increases.”

―John Adams

The power that comes with rising up only magnifies temptations. As a famous quote of John Dalberg-Acton goes-

“Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.
Great men are almost always bad men, even when they exercise influence and not authority, still more when you superadd the tendency or the certainty of corruption by authority.”

―John Dalberg-Acton

Is it then possible to resist temptations? Can we resist temptations not only in the limited scope in which we operate, but even if we do gain power and prestige?

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How Gratitude leads to joy. 9 important benefits of Gratitude.

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What is Gratitude?

The word gratitude comes from a Latin word Gratia that means Grace or Gratefulness. It means being thankful and appreciative of everything, we possess or receive.

This may be a tangible birthday gift your friend gave you, or maybe, a gesture of friendship from a co-worker. It is not limited to tangible things.

Different people perceive gratitude differently. Some people call it a feeling, some people think of it as a character trait, some people even go far as to think of it as a behavior.

Gratitude has benefits that range from improved health to improved mind-set. It empowers our relationship with our peers as well as makes us feel more optimistic for the future.

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How to be a Realist. 8 steps to practice Realism.

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Who is a Realist?

A realist is a person who is objective, someone who stays in touch with the facts and guides his thoughts with a curiosity for truth.

A realist focuses on reality and uses logic to come to conclusions.

He tries his best to gather all the evidence possible and is willing to change his mind in light of new and contrary evidence.

In short, a realist is a rational person.

Now you might be thinking, are humans not rational? Well, we all like to believe that we are rational and logical in our approach.

The truth, however, is that most people are not rational.

Forces that are deep-rooted in their psyche compel them to act in irrational ways.

In this blog, we will look at those forces as well as learn how we can practice objectivity in our approach so that we can eventually be a realist.

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Perception and Reality. Why is it important to doubt our perceptions?

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Perceptions vs Reality

Perception and reality are simple words that everyone understands and yet most people have never thought about what the implications of their differences can be.

Reality is always far from our grasp and people who think they know for certain what reality is are often ignorant of it.

In the Upanishads, (ancient texts of Hinduism), there is a quote that goes like this-

“yasyamatam tasya matam matam yasya na veda sah; avijnatam vijanatam vijnatam avijanatam.”

Kena Upnishad

It translates in English as ‘those who think they understand the nature of reality do not actually understand it, and those who know that they do not understand it, actually do.’

We think we know what reality is. It is everything that is around us.

The chair we are sitting on the phone we are reading this on. That is all real, is it not?

Perception and reality

Yes and no. When we experience the world, what we perceive is called our perception.

Now, this perception is the closest thing to reality our senses can perceive but it is not reality itself.

In this post we will explore the difference between perception and reality.

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How can we overcome perfectionism?

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What is Perfectionism?

Perfectionism is the attitude of getting absolutely everything right. Thus, it is also self-sabotaging.

In trying to be right we nit-pick everything around us and this overly critical nature seeps into all areas of our lives.

This makes it difficult for other people to be around us and even more difficult for us to be at peace with ourselves. To understand how can we overcome perfectionism we first have to understand why do we have it.

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How to deal with Depression

What is depression?

How to deal with depression, the leading cause of disability in the world? Since it is a mental illness it can be much harder to understand than a physiological illness like obesity.

One of the major areas of confusion in most people is the difference between having depression and feeling sad. Life is a roller coaster of external circumstances.

Sometimes they are good, sometimes not so good. Thus a person might be happy one moment and sad the next. Sometimes you feel gloomy for no reason whatsoever. However, over time that sadness goes away.

That is not the case with depression. A person suffering from depression cannot get rid of that feeling of sadness. It interferes with the person’s ability to live.

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